As Thanksgiving approaches this week, it is a good reminder towards gratitude and rest. However, at many family dinners, that calm and grateful demeanor can be hard to maintain. If family dinner, for you, feels nourishing, encouraging and recharging, that’s great! You likely do not need to read further. If thinking about Thanksgiving with the family already has your jaw clenched and you’re having stress dreams, this article is to support you. Here’s a few ways you can maintain mental balance during the holidays.   Validate Yourself It is completely normal to feel the full range of emotions towards your…

Oftentimes I hear people say “I can’t do anything when I get home except fall on the couch, watch TV for a few hours while I mindlessly snack.” I most often hear this from myself as I know the feeling well. But what I realize now is that there is a universality to this experience. I used to label myself as lazy or just feel guilty about this type of fatigue but now I know that this indicates a need for an energy reset. Here are the questions I ask to determine what kind of energy reset I need. (Note:…

I know when I hear the term self compassion I have flashbacks to SNL’s Stuart Smalley facing himself in the mirror saying himself “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough and doggonit, people like me!” but this is a simplistic view and really just captures a fear that being nice to ourselves is pathetic and sad. However I recently heard a metaphor that I think captures why self compassion is an essential trait for overall well-being. A friend told me a metaphor I thought was so apt. In the US, we have a culture of debt and spend money we do…

Mental hygiene is a collection of habits, practices and ways of being that maintain the health of your mind. As children, we are taught dental hygiene, but nothing about how to keep our minds healthy and fresh. As a child when I was sad, angry, or confused—I had no way out. I knew I was going to be lost in what felt like “the abyss” for awhile and so I avoided many feelings that I deemed negative because I didn’t know what to do with myself. And many well meaning adults didn’t know what to do either. During my childhood,…